369 - The Mediator Archetype

According to Katherine Fauvre

Community descriptions

Karkino (Personality Cafe)^[1]

3+6: The Team Player

• Double attachment.
• Paring that is the most hardworking and cooperating.
• Enhances the natural line of connection to THREE and SIX.
• Think of any sport team and how each player needs to be aware of their role and be successful for the group.
• Want to be praised for their efforts and are extremely good at fitting in the mold in any organization.
• Want to maintain a competent yet cooperative reputation among their peers.
• Can be doubtful of the authority yet still want to be praised by it.
• They are found on top the hierarchy unless they lead with EIGHT or ONE.
• Make great managers, rule-implementers, etc.
• They want to know the rules so they can implement them to the best of their capacity.
• Anxious if the authority questions their value or their work.
• Like to show their loyalty and love through concrete actions.
• May want to act for the greater good of a community of a group, especially if social subtype.
• Become very anxious when they are singled-out or lose their jobs, career, etc. since they put so much emphasis on their providing role.
• Failure to meet requirement can be extremely disruptive psychologically (as an employee, parent, husband, wife, etc.)
• Can become competitive in order to please the thing that gives them security (bosses, parents, partners, etc.)
• Can adapt their speech and mannerism in order to conform better to their surroundings.
• May question authority behind its back but support and perform in front of them.
• The 6 fix helps the core 3 to pay attention to their environment, who and what can give them success through security.
• The 3 fix helps the core 6 to be confident in their ability to perform and execute tasks to gain trust and security.

3+9: The Stabilizer

• Double attachment.
• Pairing that hides behind an inoffensive and likeable veneer the most.
• Enhances the natural line of connection to THREE and NINE.
• Probably the least likely of all pairings to display strong emotions or go toward extremes.
• Consequently, there is rarely something offensive, dramatic or controversial about them, at least on surface level.
• There is a natural mask of pleasantness when those two enneatypes come together.
• Hide their more edgy side with a likeable but somewhat plain exterior.
• Can be a surprisingly tough nut to crack in private, even when they lead with the sexual instinct.
• Stick to the role that is assigned to them.
• Very consistent behavior, especially in public.
• Even when they lead with SIX or is a feeling type in the MBTI, there is a moderation in their emotional display and they won’t focus too much on amplifying them, especially negative ones.
• Want to be seen as reliable and successful without too much arrogance.
• Can pride themselves in being tolerant, uncomplicated and agreeable.
• Very adaptable and accommodating.
• Can agree with people on surface but privately disagree.
• Masters of lazy but efficient work practices, aka working smarter.
• Are efficient but don’t usually push themselves further than what’s expected of them.
• Hide their stubbornness by only adapting in surface and doing superficial changes.
• Unemotional and dry personality for the most part.
• The 9 fix helps the core 3 mellow their ambitious nature and go more with the flow.
• The 3 fix helps the core 9 be more assertive, dynamic and goal oriented.

6+9: The Follower

• Double attachment.
• Enhances the natural line of connection to SIX and NINE.
• Pairing that wants to be part of a community the most, even if not social subtype.
• Often unassuming or wavering when alone, feel better in groups.
• Even when leading with FOUR or with a sexual subtype, you won’t see them alienating themselves completely from their peers.
• Unsure about their capacity to act alone, so they side with security.
• Can easily take too much time to take a decision, especially with TWO or FOUR in the tritype.
• Find security in being part of something greater than them.
• Often look scared, preoccupied and/or worried even if not.
• Unconsciously conforms and bends to its environment.
• Can easily mimic or reflect collective insecurities, wants or beliefs.
• Abhor conflict; their first instinct is usually to hide. A strong EIGHT wing or THREE fix can help alleviate the need for flight.
• It’s hard to think for themselves and not to be swayed by others’ opinion
• Usually gentle and amiable but can become secretive and anxious if they feel threatened.
• Display their frustration in a passive aggressive way, often displacing it to something less threatening.
• The SIX here is usually phobic but can become counterphobic if pushed enough toward stress and danger.
• Can easily be caught in indecision and want others to take the big decisions at first.
• At their worst, can blindly follow the herd and act without thinking for themselves.
• The 9 fix helps the core 6 relax and being more tolerant and accepting of difference.
• The 6 fix helps the core 9 being less indolent and more proactive when helping others.

References

[1] Karkino (2021), Enneagram Pairings Revised & Expanded Edition