Sexual 1 In Detail
Anger in the Sexual Sphere
Originally the SX instinct with the Anger of a 1 would produce a highly jealous character which was afraid that someone more perfect would come along to steal their partner, but Naranjo and his students would change this subtype into what it is today. So, what is the SX1? Well, when Anger comes into contact with the relations instinct it produces a character which merges it’s ideals of perfection and projects them onto another, correcting and forcing others to conform to their standards, here anger is expressed the most freely in the three subtypes of the 1, as they feel it’s their duty to reform others and make them more "perfect", a common social role of this subtype is that of a coach, the kind you pay to scream at you to get better.
Ichazo called the SX1 "Jealousy", an individual who feels that their union with another is always threatened by someone more perfect[1], which then manifests as impatient invasion supported by a sense of entitlement.[2] Naranjo described it as assertive anger that overlaps with desire, resulting in characteristic vehemence, comparable to an animal in heat, which he implies with the title "Zeal", he also implies that this can lead to a spirit full of conquest and possessiveness.[2]
Characteristic Traits[9]
Idealization of the couple or relationship
Sexual E1 individuals tend to idealize both their partner and the nature of their relationship, focusing intensely on the depth and quality of their interpersonal connections. These individuals tend to have high expectations in their love relationships, fueled by the belief that a perfect relationship is achievable. However, this idealization can lead to frustration and disappointment when confronted with the inevitable reality of human imperfection.
Intense focus on intimacy
In the case of individuals of sexual type E1, there is a marked focus on the intensity of sexual intercourse. These individuals invest a considerable amount of energy in the effort to make the relationship as seamless and meaningful as possible. This intensive focus reflects your desire to achieve a high ideal in all aspects of romantic connection.
We can identify the crazy idea here as "If I want it intensely, I can achieve my ideal."High standards for the partner and for yourself
In their affective relationship, the individual of the sexual type E1 generally aspires to excellence and mutual commitment to personal and collective growth, and continuously seeks to be for their partner the best version of themselves, the one they consider to be the best, reflecting an impulse not only to improve themselves, but also to promote and contribute to the joint development in the relationship, with the crazy idea that he knows how to perfect his partner.
Passionate advocacy for justice in the relationship
Individuals of the sexual subtype may evoke a strong need for fairness and fairness in interactions with their partner, distortedly believing that the only true principle of justice is their own, without the ability to recognize the other as a person with their criteria, principles, and needs.
Idealization of perfection
Individuals of the E1 sexual type tend to hold an ideal of how things should be, applying it to both their internal and external worlds. They rely on the belief that they know how things should be done.
"I could give many examples of this throughout my life. I can walk into my house as soon as the cleaning lady leaves, after she's done her job, and spot a small stain on a piece of clothing that no one notices, or I can love shoes, and when they no longer look perfect, I stop liking them. I can't stand to enter my house and see it dirty according to my cleaning criteria. It makes me uncomfortable and angry, and no matter what time it is, I have to vacuum. I often say that I like to walk barefoot around my house. It's actually my way of making sure the floor is perfectly clean." -Roza Picazzo
A harsh internal criticism
The individual of the sexual type E1 usually has a very severe internal critic, who constantly evaluates his actions and thoughts. This inner scrutiny intensifies when circumstances do not conform to their idealistic vision or when they perceive some injustice.
In such situations, they may experience anger, which can manifest internally as self-criticism or externally as resentment towards others. They are convinced that they have the right to get angry and criticize the other if he does not fit their criteria, which is the only valid one.Compulsion to improve
Type E1 individuals with sexual subtype feel a constant compulsion not only to improve themselves, but also to improve the world around them. They channel their energy into causes they are passionate about, driven by a desire to make a positive impact on their environment. They seem unaware that the need to improve themselves is a neurotic compulsion to feel that they are worthwhile, that they exist, and not an objective need. The crazy idea underlying it is: "everything can be improved; I know how to improve it."
"There is a clear difference between the 20-year-old and the 70-year-old man.
Recently, one of my employees noticed that the main beam of a building under construction was placed incorrectly: he asked the construction manager to remove the entire roof and place it correctly. The poor man came to me in desperation: that would have ruined the budget. At that moment I thought about what I would have done a few years ago: no doubt, I would have been ruthless, I would not have cared about the price of correcting the mistake. However, today I know that the best is the enemy of the good. The goal post remained as it was, and everything went well. I educated my character to relativize my impetus." -Patrick GenardMoralize intimacy
Sexual E1 can tend to moralize about the nature of intimate relationships and set high standards for themselves and others. In relation to intimacy, they sustain a distorted idea that intimacy cannot rely on spontaneity and what one feels in the present moment. Everything has to be planned and controlled. The intimate relationship "works" if it has a clear organization and fair rules.
Emotional vigilance
The E1 sexual type person tends to be very attentive to the emotional dynamics of their relationships. This attention translates into constant vigilance over potential problems or areas for improvement. He is often looking for ways to strengthen and enrich the relationship, with a focus on problem-solving and continuous improvement of the emotional bond. He is convinced that if he solves the problems, the bond will be good, believing that by arranging things, feelings are fixed.
Denial of personal needs
Apparently, the sexual E1 can deny or minimize his own needs and desires, which he considers obstacles to the realization of higher ideals. "What I feel is not worth it, what I do to achieve my ideals is worth it." In reality, this often hides a betrayal of one's feelings, which are not clearly acknowledged. The desires themselves, of course, often come first, only converted into "moral truths."
"My first therapist, in the first or second therapy session, told me: 'You are like a devil: a lot of head, very well-organized, a lot of stability and connection with the world, many principles of reality, but no feeling. "I had internalized intelligence and
a sense of reality naturally, but I didn't deal with emotion as well: I had difficulty expressing myself, or I said things when they were no longer relevant, or with an intensity that wasn't right. Modulating emotional expression, allowing it, has been a great challenge." -Patrick GenardFear of losing control in relationships
The sexual E1 individual may harbor an irrational fear of losing control or stability in their intimate relationships, leading to a desire for predictability and order. "I have to predict everything." There is often a strong desire to dominate the partner or the bonds.
Fear of imperfection
The sexual E1 individual may experience a significant fear of imperfection, both in themselves and in their relationships. This fear often leads them to avoid or hide aspects that they consider defective or that fall short of their ideal of perfection. The belief may arise that your own personal worth is intrinsically linked to the success and perfection of your romantic relationships. This association between personal value and perfection in the relationship increases the fear of failure and generates additional pressure to maintain an ideal relationship image.
Difficulty in managing conflicts in relationships
For an E1 type with a sexual subtype, dealing with conflict in relationships can be especially difficult, due to this character's intense desire to avoid discord. This tendency can result in repression of emotions or avoidance of conversations that are essential for conflict resolution. The fear of disturbing the harmony of the relationship can lead them to avoid confrontation, even when addressing these issues would be beneficial to the well-being of the relationship. The crazy idea can be formulated as "if there is conflict, something is not perfect; and if I perfect it, there will be no conflict." "Emotions produce chaos."
The E1 sexual type tends to project his own self-criticism outwardly, demanding that others meet his rigid standards of perfection. This attitude often manifests itself in contempt for those who do not meet these standards, with a tendency to disdain and, in return, an enlarged self-image that resembles moral superiority. The sexual E1 often believes that the person responsible deserves to be treated fairly by life, as if perfection could control the environment.
Despite achieving their goals, the sexual E1 often does not allow themselves to fully enjoy their successes. This is because he tends to see his achievements simply as the fulfillment of his obligations, which prevents him from fully recognizing and appreciating his own efforts and successes. This approach extends to his expectations of others, whom he pressures to follow his same moral code of right and wrong. What the sexual E1 considers irrational or immoral, according to his worldview, is unacceptable to others, with no room for exceptions.
"A few years ago, I had a serious adverse health event, and instead of focusing on what had happened, my focus was on how unfair it was, since I was leading a healthy life, without tobacco or alcohol, with a healthy diet, with physical exercise, a "perfect" lifewhere that disease did not fit. At the same time, I externalized, pointing the authoritarian finger at all those people who ate badly, did not practice sports and whom, however, what had happened to me did not happen to them." -Roza Picazzo
Conclusions and justifications
In situations where an individual of sexual type E1 is faced with doubts about his actions or decisions, he may resort to irrational conclusions to comfort himself and confirm his identification with the character. These conclusions can take various forms that reflect your perfectionist outlook and focus on correction. Below, we will include some examples of these conclusions.
I. "Why didn't they accept that this was the right way to do it?", a conclusion by which E1 questions the lack of agreement of others with his method.
II. "They should realize this isn't right," a phrase E1 says to himself when he expects others to see situations from his rigorous perspective.
III. "I had to put other people's things in the right place", a conclusion by which sexual E1 justifies his intervention in other people's affairs.
IV. "They'll thank me for taking care of their carelessness," a conclusion by which sexual E1 anticipates the gratitude of the other when he intends to correct the mistakes of others.
V. "Since I did things right, they will follow my example," a phrase E1 says when she expects her behavior to serve as a model.
VI. "He's going to thank me for teaching him how to do better," concludes E1 as he believes in the benefit of his guidance.
VII. "It's okay, because I had less fun than the others, because my work was valuable," a conclusion according to which sexual E1 values work over personal pleasure.
VIII. "I was able to stay in the left lane, as I was driving at the speed limit," the conclusion by which the sexual E1 justifies its behavior on the road.
IX. "It's not my fault, I did everything that needed to be done", a conclusion by which sexual E1 shirks responsibility for the bad results.
X. "Since I've been through this, next time I won't be so weak," a phrase with which sexual E1 minimizes his vulnerability and emphasizes his personal strength.Appropriation of the truth
The concept of truth operates as a central force in E1 sexual, constituting itself as the epicenter around which the distinctive characteristics of his personality orbit. In situations of doubt or conflict, the truth becomes the beacon that lights your way. Under its light, hesitations melt away, providing a sense of lucidity and a sense of direction. This conviction becomes especially relevant when others show indecision.
Truth not only guides your path to perfectionism and what's right in a rule-structured universe, but it also sustains a restrained, attentive anger. In addition, it can be metamorphosed into an "educational" instrument for those who hesitate or choose simpler routes or shortcuts. Ultimately, truth becomes the only discernible horizon and an excuse to correct.
His amalgam of openness and vulnerability leads the E1 sexual to wield truth not only as a shield but also as a sword, dressing in an armor of convictions and securities that protect and strengthen him. When this fervor for truth merges with their obsession with perfecting, rectifying, and dominating, it can be transformed into a legitimizing energy that gives the individual a leadership role, embarking on the mission of "improving the world" through their prism of truth. and justice.
Their only goal was to tear off the absurd masks that religions had planted over the face of God, one over the other, over the centuries. We and our usefulness, our virtue, our happiness, all come down to this simple truth, which I have understood after 32 years of life: as long as we have the desire to discover the truth and to tell it, we continue to try
to discover it and tell it.Contradictory - Dualistic
The mind of the E1 sexual is one of extreme duality: good and bad, winners and losers, valid and invalid, right and wrong. The E1 sexual can be a two-sided Janus, one side of light and one of darkness. He can speak wonders of virtue, sacrifice, and courage, but be at the same time incoherent and wasteful, consorting with prostitutes and denying what he preaches.
How to understand the merits and inconsistencies of this remarkable and disconcerting character? On the one hand, the love of the truth, the love of humanity, the love of God and of the Master, whose glory he does not want or cannot admit. On the other, pride, darkness, lack of faith and the abyss.
"I think for a while there were patriarchal elements in my behavior toward my children, which manifested as control and domination. Fortunately, the mother of my three children had the wisdom to accept this tendency of mine without much
confrontation but knowing how to counter it and thus reduce the impact of my behavior on our children. When I realized this, I learned to accept (in the vast majority of cases) what I came to recognize as healthy influences. But it didn't make a significant change in my behavior." -Jurgen KramerAntisocial
Instead of perceiving his childlike loneliness as an emptiness and using it as a defensive shield, sexual E1 sees himself as powerful, competent, and worthy of recognition for his achievements. Since childhood, he often finds himself struggling with himself, which teaches him to be autonomous and self-sufficient and not to rely too much on the support of others or communication. However, he has an underlying desire for his efforts to be validated and wants at all costs for them to be recognized as excellent (or at least above what is considered normal). SX1 lives with the contradiction of being comfortable in his own company, while yearning for acceptance from others or a group he sympathizes with.
However, he is not comfortable being part of a collective without a purpose or identity that resonates with him. Sometimes when he faces rejection, emotions of frustration and anger arise, and then he directs the blame onto others instead of taking it as his own."It's easy for me to relate to people I like. In groups, I just participate with the things I consider important or with my favorite people. I think I express myself easily, I'm good at listening and understanding what the other says. I used to be very critical, but now I'm much less (I've discovered the advantage of using polarities independently and usually only speak when I think I have something to say).
Before, at parties, I often went next to women, because I wasn't interested in talking about football, or anything that men should talk about." -Jurgen KramerInitiator
In the private sphere, the sexual E1 suffers the consequences of his inability to relate, to surrender - and, ultimately, to love - because he cannot see himself, he is far from accepting himself, much less the other. In the family environment, they tend to want to control everything and act according to their criteria, often believing that it is for the well-being of others, without really considering their needs or desires. When their effort and sacrifice are not recognized or thanked in the way they expect, they often do not reflect on their behavior, but tend to blame others.
"I'm the one who starts the family gatherings. Of course, since I don't want to look like I'm imposing my ideas, I usually come with the best place and time. I like the opportunity to create incentives for them to agree to a family reunion. So I can "do something good" for others, and I can do it by being "just and equitable" " -Jurgen Kramer
Lust
Historically, feeling sexual lust has been considered sinful. An extreme example might be that, until recently, in many Western countries, homosexuality was considered a crime. For example, an estimated 49,000 people were convicted before homosexuality was decriminalized in England in 1967. Sexual E1 tends to have a more liberal attitude due to sexual desire, including a thought of "why not?" that helps him justify the strength of his desires.
"And then the miserable carnal side took hold of me again, and just an hour later I was hearing the voice of vice, ambition, vanity, and life. I knew where those voices were coming from, they were destroying my happiness. Fought. Missing. I fell
asleep, offended by fame and women. One day, when I was eight or nine years old, I was playing with some friends in the piles of sand at a construction site and tried to insert my small penis into a younger girl. I don't remember anything
other than not having succeeded. However, some twenty years later, when she was about to be married in a neighboring village and visited my family, the memory of that "erotic experience" did not arouse in me any censorious remorse, but rather a secret smile of satisfaction." -Jurgen KramerIn search of accurate and suitable words
E1's yearning for perfection is also reflected in the intense search for the right word to describe situations or formulate thoughts verbally. Strakhov helped Tolstoy prepare the book Anna Karenina for hardcover publication. "With regard to my
corrections, which almost always concerned linguistic issues," Strakhov wrote, "I found that Leon defended his choice of words to the death and refused to make the slightest modification. I could tell from his remarks that he cared very much for what I had written, and that, despite the apparent carelessness and strangeness of his style, he had weighed
every word and every sentence with the same care as the most exacting poet."As long as he refers to words or writings from his own jurisdiction, his attitude may be justified, but, of course, sexual E1 does not limit his action to the personal realm. In conversations—and whenever the opportunity presents itself—he finds considerable satisfaction in correcting others.
Possessive tendencies
The E1 sexual can exhibit possessive tendencies in their relationships, often faces an internal struggle with jealousy and worries excessively about their partner's loyalty and fidelity, seeking certainty of their commitment and dedication. This can constantly lead him to become a bedroom tyrant, and in any case, he is patriarchal and domineering in front of his partner, whom he belittles, which applies to both men and women.
Relationship with shame and guilt
Sexual E1 can have an intensified relationship with shame and guilt, particularly as it relates to sexual or sensual desires. You may find it difficult to reconcile your high moral standards and values with your more instinctive and passionate nature.
"The shame in me is linked to my shyness. I remember that, in high school, I had to give a lecture in front of the class. As he spoke, he grew redder and redder. My mind was blurry, and I felt more and more foolish. However, he was an expert at
dissembling. Years later, at the age of 21, I hitchhiked to the Avignon Festival. I was stopped by a car with four girls inside. I sat between them and one of them put his hand on my ass, inside my pants. It was like this the whole trip, touching me... I,
unperturbed, did not move an eyebrow, pretended that nothing had happened. I insisted on getting off at my destination, and they didn't want me to leave. The girl didn't let go of my ass until the last moment. I was calm. In fact, inside I was dying of embarrassment." -Patrick GenardPsychodynamic considerations
As Claudio Naranjo pointed out, the Passions arise from a background of "covered" obscuration; The loss of the sense of "I am" sustains the desire to be. In the case of sexual E1, the "covered" obscuration is something that is at the forefront of the psychological style. In other words, there is in the vital attitude of the sexual E1 a loss of the sense of being that manifests itself as an "unconsciousness of unconsciousness" that gives him a particular self-satisfaction. Unconscious dissatisfaction, however, becomes the most ardent of the passions that, although ignored by active unconsciousness, underlie the quality of interpersonal relationships. In sexual E1, the "covered" obscuration is concealed by excessive refinement, and it can be said that the reactive formation also occurs at the "covered" level: the perceived "covered" deficiency becomes a stimulus for compensation through activities aimed at the promulgation of perfection. The search for
the self can thus become a wave toward being a substitute for the good life.Sometimes, for the sexual E1, the quality of life is directly related to the quality of righteousness, a harmony between conduct and the world of principles. This manifests itself in the whole person, possessing the strength to resist temptations and stand firm in what he considers right, the motivation to make an effort can often be traced back to an early experience of affective dissatisfaction and the resulting defense mechanism of the desire to prove that I will be better than you and rise above your ability to evaluate myself.
I'll prove it to you. Thus, it constitutes a defense against its recognition, in addition to constituting the underlying mechanism of perfectionism. moralism, conscious benevolence, well-intentioned criticality, the anecdotal ethics of hard work, etc.The result of this process, in which the search for love ignites a perfectionist craving, turns into a relentless search for what is right and respectable, making it difficult to satisfy a still latent - although repressed - need for tenderness, recognition and respect.
Claudio Naranjo's Sexual 1 Description[3]
E1 Sexual – Vehemence/Zeal
Oscar Ichazo used the Spanish noun cello (zeal) in reference to the characteristic passion of the sexual, and this is a word that has a double meaning. When speaking of an animal in heat (that is, in the estrus phase), the word denotes great sexual excitement; In reference to personality, when we talk about doing things with zeal, we mean something similar to care, care, dedication or fervor. Thus, it is understood that heat, in its broadest sense, is something analogous to the intensity with which the animal in heat seeks the object of its instinct.
We would say that a sexual E1 is characterized by a special intensity of their desires that makes them urgent, vehement. If we want to understand why anger in the sexual sphere results in this jealousy, we can say that anger potentiates desire by lending it its aggressiveness. In other words, anger gives any desire a special strength and intensity, so that the person feels not only strongly drawn toward its satisfaction, but feels entitled to it.
The result is a type that is characterized by a strong spirit of domination and conquest. I will explain it with a collective behavior: when the emerald or diamond mines in South Africa were only exploited by Europeans, many objected that this was not fair, since such wealth belonged to Africans. However, many people—completely convinced—replied: “what good is it going to do for them? They have no culture!” And it seemed obvious to them that it was the Europeans to whom the diamonds belonged in view of their civilized character—which contrasted with the supposedly barbaric character of the primitives.
The same thing happened with the Spanish conquerors, who in the name of their very Christian emperor felt authorized to take the gold from the Aztecs or the Incas.
Similarly, some people feel more entitled than their neighbors to the good things in life, to the satisfaction of their desires or even to exploitative behavior. And in this there is not only vehemence of desires, but an illusory and exculpatory conviction that this satisfaction justifies aggressive acts.
A young man in one of my groups explained that when he was about six years old, he liked to put his penis between his sister's buttocks. His mother told him: “No! Don't do that!” And he answered: “Why not?”
Never before have I heard such an anecdote from a little boy: “Why not?”
Because we live in a sufficiently repressive culture so that it is usual that, when children are reprimanded by their parents for sexual activities, they experience it as a shame, and sometimes even with a guilt that leaves traumatic traces. For a sexual one, however, the strength of the drive is sufficient for the person—as in the case of the lustful enneatype—to be more willing to question the censure of authority than the strength of her desire.
Sandra Maitri's Sexual 1 Description[4]
1+Sexual – Heat/Jealousy
Sexual Ones have a vivacious, gushy, hyperanimated, and effusive style of behavior. This constant sense of being impassioned is a leaking of their sexual “heat” into their personality style. They are perpetually afraid that someone more perfect will come along and steal their partner, if they have one, and so are always on the alert for signs that their partner desires someone else. If they don’t have a mate, they are convinced deep down that another, better person will be more desirable to their object of affection than they are. As Ichazo says, “Union with another is always threatened by someone more perfect.”
Beatrice Chestnut's Sexual 1 Description
Sexual (One-to-One) 1 Subtype description (2021)[5]
This is the only Type 1 subtype that feels more comfortable with anger. They tend to express anger more than the other subtypes, even though they also sometimes control it. They are more critical of others than they are of themselves, although they are still self-critical. They claim connection to a higher moral authority and are more often reformers than perfectionists. They are zealous when advocating for what they see as right, for what needs to be fixed, and for their right to get what they want.
If this is your subtype, you express a need to perfect others and reform society so that whatever happens conforms to your sense of what is right, perfect, or just. You criticize others as a way to assert your moral authority. You vent anger and unconsciously avoid taking responsibility for correcting your own flawed perspective or actions. You have a strong need to control what’s happening. Your need to get what you want confirms your sense of what’s right and you avoid questioning your own standards or authority. You rationalize your right to take what you need or fix what needs to be fixed when anger fuels desire.
Sexual 1 Subtype summary (2013)[8]
Sexual Ones focus on perfecting others; they are more reformers than perfectionists. The only One who is explicitly angry, they act out anger through their intense desire to improve others and get what they want. They feel entitled in the way a reformer or a zealot can feel entitled: they believe they have a right to change society and get what they want because they have a higher understanding of the truth and the reasons behind “the right way to be.” The countertype of the Ones, they are more impulsive and outwardly angry—they go against the “counter-instinctive” tendency of the One to repress anger and impulses.
Sexual 1 Subtype description (2013)[8]
The Sexual One: “Zeal” (Countertype)
While the Self-Preservation One is a perfectionist, and the Social One unconsciously takes on the pose of someone who is “perfect” in modeling to the right way to be, Sexual Ones focus on perfecting others. This One is more of a reformer than a perfectionist. They have a need to improve others, but don’t focus on being perfect themselves.
This is the only One subtype that is explicitly angry and so is the countertype of the three One personalities. The Sexual One is impatient, can be invasive, goes for what he or she wants, and has a sense of entitlement. These Ones have an intensity of desire fueled by anger that motivates them to want to improve others. This can be expressed as a sense of excitement, passion, or idealism about the way things could be if people would reform their behavior, or if the reforms they envision were enacted by society. This makes them compelling and vehement.
This character feels entitled in the sense of possessing the mentality of a reformer or a zealot—one who knows how to live or do things better and so feels a right to assert their will over others. Like the mentality of a conqueror, this approach can be rationalized (and made virtuous) through the rhetoric of their adherence to a higher moral code or calling.
According to Naranjo, Ichazo gave this subtype the name, “Zeal,” meaning “a special intensity of desire.” Zeal suggests an intensity or excitement that fuels the desire to connect with others. It also means doing things with care, dedication, and fervor.
This One’s anger infuses his desire with a special intensity or urgency and the person has the sense that “I have to have it,” or “I have a right to it,” or “I have to improve it (society or another person) to make it the way I know it should be.”
In a collective sense, this can be seen in the idea of “manifest destiny,” the ideology that justified the takeover of the western part of the United States from the Native Americans in the 1800s. Despite what our retrospective view of that period might be, this philosophy was a justification for the white man taking over land populated by “savages.” Another example of this ideology can be seen in the minds of conquerors, as when the Spanish conquered South America. The rhetoric displayed there was, “I can take this because I’m noble and civilized.”
In the Sexual One, this intensity of desire can support the impulse to reform or perfect specific others or to make the world a better place in the way this One believes it should be. Sometimes, this desire to perfect others grows out of a genuine belief in an enlightened vision of reform or idealism. However, it may at the same time be fueled by this instinctual subtype’s need to make others more perfect. One woman I know with this subtype reported that she felt she would be justified in leaving her husband if he did not carry out her suggestions for his improvement. And she felt a need to help him become a better person so she could have a better partner
In Western culture there can be an anti-sexual or anti-instinctual sentiment—the idea that it’s not okay to act on one’s desires. For instance, the sinfulness of sex is so pervasive that it can be hard sometimes not to feel improper or naughty if we allow ourselves to freely express our sexual desires. But the Sexual One has a different, more liberated, attitude with regard to sexual desire. There’s a kind of “go for it” mentality that can then necessitate the finding of good reasons to support the rightness of whatever the Sexual One wants to do. Unlike the Self-Preservation Ones, these Ones don’t question themselves as much. Instead they are concerned more with making others into the people they think they should be.
These Ones are avengers; they are not afraid of confrontation. They may be containing a murderous rage that they cannot see. Their anger can be like a volcano that erupts. They perceive themselves as strong. They have great strength and determination and can be very brave. They are also impulsive and do things quickly.
Sexual Ones have two sides: a more playful side oriented toward pleasure and an aggressive, angry side. Pain is the emotion they repress the most and the one they find most difficult to show. They may act out their unacknowledged pain by leading a double life as a way of breaking the rules. Some Sexual Ones display “trap-door” behavior, discharging their anger and pain through “bad” acts. An example of this is Eliot Spitzer. As the Attorney General of the State of New York, he crusaded against lawbreakers, going after Wall Street criminals and prostitutes in an effort to reform society. However, he later resigned as the Governor when he was caught having an ongoing relationship with a prostitute himself.
In light of this type of behavior, this One can look like a type Eight. Like Eights, they can be energetic, assertive, and strong. These Ones believe they have a right to impose their vision and get what they need, in the same way an Eight might overpower or dominate a situation to impose their own will. But Eights and Ones differ in that Ones are “over-social” and Eights are “under-social.”
Sexual Ones bring intensity and energy to relationships. They can be forceful and insistent. They may attempt to reform their partners and friends, conveying the sense of being on a mission or drawing on a higher calling or authority in the things they do. They excel at pointing out what others might need to do to reform their behavior or meet specific standards, but focus less interest and attention in reforming their own behavior, seeing what they do as right.
Haiki Sexual 1 Description[6]
Sexual One: Vehemence
These are people that give their all in everything they do. They obsess and worry about every detail, with an addition for intensity and they transmit their anger into a passion for vehemence.
They are able to easily tap into themes of domination and conquest. They are sure of what there is to be done and they do it without hesitating. Claudio Naranjo spoke of them as being like Spanish conquistadors; in favor of a benevolent God and for the glory of their kings, they sacked and killed without weight on their conscience. To them, it was what had to be done.
In the terrain of romance, they end up being very suffocating while demanding a lot of the other. They confuse sincerity with assertiveness. Differently from Self-Preservation Ones, Sexual Ones can jump from hidden irritation to explicit rage in a heartbeat. They are extremely faithful and loyal; in this sense, they can be very similar to Social Sixes. They create boundaries and limits with clarity and try to respect them. But if they become careless, they can become possessive and jealous.
They are excellent agents of perfection, with a dangerous tendency toward idealization. They experience a constant search for intensity.
In order to grow, they must tone down their intensity and give their impulse a break, making contact with true serenity.
Sexual Ones spew out their anger on the world. There is bitterness written all over them. Their blood boils with their own violence and they become agents of righteous anger.
Carmen Durán and Antonio Catalán's Sexual 1 Description[7]
SX1: Zeal -> Submission
In this subtype, there is a strong tension between a high level of natural impulsivity, uncontrollable by nature, and fear of what a loss of control would entail. They make themselves feel safe through maintaining a highly-controlled, Puritan-like attitude, but their fantasies remain full of desires. It is this projection of their impulses that leads to a zealous attitude, believing that others unable to control their own impulses gives them the right to intervene and submit the other to their ideal. This produces a hypervigilant control and, from there, a desire to find someone they can submit to, someone who will take control, and therefore they can not take the blame for their own desire. The fantasies of losing control are as feared as they are desired and, sometimes, they manifest through a type of double life, where they act out everything they consider wrong or dirty, while maintaining it separate from their orthodox daily lives. We propose the term “Submission,” with a double meaning as it alludes to the desire of finding someone who can submit to them, who they can control control, but at the same time, to the desire for someone who is capable of making them submit and lose control a little bit.
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